Wednesday, November 26, 2008


What an amazing week it has been. I had no idea that when I posted that photo of my sister and I it would change the course and direction of my life! More about that after Thanksgiving!

For now I HAD to share the hysterical antics of this cat. Reminds me so much of my own furbabies. If you're a cat lover you HAVE to watch will turn a frown upside down. Warning: if you've just finished eating your Thanksgiving might want to wait awhile for it to digest!

Thursday, November 20, 2008


Looking at the previous photo made me realize how much we change from year to year. It wasn't that long ago that I was a size 6 active woman who never stayed home. Now I spend almost 95% of my time at home. Not having a car can do that to you! Anyway, it made me think about my sister who has always been my sidekick. Sometimes that frustrated me but now I welcome her help when we spend time crafting. She's applied for a lollishop under the name Primsy*Whimsy. Here are our photos both then and now.

Well, that last photo was almost now. It was last October at my nephew's wedding. This past July I couldn't stand the heat anymore and I took a pair of clippers to that long hair. It's just now growing out and by July will be ready to be crew cut again!
TGIF everyone.


It's been almost a week and I haven't gotten around to posting my pics from last Friday's gallery bash. It was a blast and very profitable for me. Unfortunately not everyone made sales but I was one of the lucky ones. Here's what I was showing:

I met three wonderful artists who I so enjoyed spending time with. I will be sending them all emails this weekend. Didn't want to appear 'needy' so I didn't write to them :) Anyway, the show was great, the company was terrific and this happy artist is planning to do it again in the spring.

Next time I'll have more of my large art pieces. Most of what I had to show were pieces I sold on eBay and Etsy which were all small due to shipping costs and the challenge of packaging them for shipment! Hugs to all my followers and thanks to everyone who supported me this week during my daughter inspired 'crisis'. :)

Wednesday, November 19, 2008


I woke up this morning tucked cozily under my new microfiber blanket and heating blanket with the late autumn sun shining brightly in my south window. It was only 17 degrees in Jersey last night which is unusual for this time of year. Since our heating system hasn't operated in five years we've been heating with a wood stove. Sometimes that heat doesn't quite make it down to our bedroom before the door gets closed at night. So the air around my bed was definitely nippy.

Stretching like one of my four contented cats I decided to turn on my side and enjoy a few more moments of warmth before I hopped out of bed and into my long johns. During those moments I thought about where my life is and where I'd like it to be in six months. And I finally made a decision that I've postponed for a year. In the late spring I am going on a much needed sabbatical. Four months of rest, creativity and much needed introspection IS going to happen this time.

We have a 15 year old fifth wheel trailer that is in relatively good shape. At least it was when we closed it down in the fall of '07. It's parked lakeside in a campground in the heart of Pennsylvania's Amish country. I had planned my escape for May 22 through September 17 of this past year but with fuel prices and the lack of a working vehicle I needed to let the dream that had guided me through the winter of '08 become just another broken one. This time I AM going to do it. I'll be 60 in April. 60 is the new 40 and since I didn't get much chance to enjoy that decade of my life I'm going to give myself a do-over.

I have always been available and ready to help my friends and family no matter the day, the hour or my own plans. This time I'm going to be selfish and give myself this special time. I think the fact that I went through metastatic breast cancer successfully without a whimper, at least in part, entitles me to some "ME" time alone.

So once again I'll start my plans for that precious time alone. Time to get healthy. Time to lose the 50 lbs. that came with menopause and chemo meds. Time to paint, photograph and blog about my life. Time with my best pal, my sweet furry love Sebastian.

And when May arrives and the trip looks like a bust AGAIN, I will at least have spent my winter planning, looking forward to days of warmth and solitude and I won't remember these mornings of ear chilling cold.

Tuesday, November 18, 2008


Thanks to everyone who commented on my last blog post. In the interim my daughter and I have talked. In fact spent more time than we have in months talking about her feelings.

She has been in counseling. As the psychologist told her, she already knows how to deal with this because of her insightful nature. And as my daughter said to me with great wisdom..."I do know how to get through just takes time...Nick met every item on my 'list' except for the blue's like someone died...but instead of losing one person it's like there was a major calamity and I lost an entire family".

So at the moment she's decided to concentrate on her career. I know she'll be ok but there are always going to be setbacks until someone or something keeps her so absorbed that she never slips back into the past but is soundly planted in the present with an eye toward the future.

Sunday, November 16, 2008


Love hurts everyone in the family when one of its members has been heartbroken without reason. I had another post in mind for this evening but because this is weighing so heavily on my mind I decided to get it out and 'on the air' so I could stop obsessing about my 29 yro daughter's heartbreak.

It's been seven months since her significant other dropped her via phone on their first anniversary of dating. He was the one who she had finally trusted with her heart and he not only stomped it and kick dropped it into the toilet but he gave her no reason for his rejection. I think the not knowing has finally taken its toll. She no longer wants to attend family functions, spends most of her free time either watching TV or sleeping and she's living her life as a lady in waiting. Waiting for life to happen to her. losing the only man you've loved may not be an excuse to be come a recluse but I worry about the fact that it's happened as such a delayed reaction. At first she seemed like she was holding up and growing stronger. Then about 6 weeks ago I could see her start to unravel every time she mentioned his name. And she mentioned it more often then she had since it happened. I don't know how to reach her any more. All she does is obsess about why he stopped loving her. Especially when he swore that she could trust him because he would NEVER treat her like the other men in her life had.

So what do I do? I don't know, I really don't. I guess because I never loved like that; never really gave away my heart and loved someone beyond reason I can't understand her pain. But she is my daughter and I love her beyond reason so perhaps if she rejected me I would feel the same pangs of heartbreak as she does??? No, a mother's love doesn't stop with a child's rejection because a mother's love is forever no matter whether or not that love is returned.

But I miss her. I miss the sweet little girl who would hold my hand and skip down the street with me. The funny little urchin with the dirty face who could make me laugh so hard my eyes would tear up and I’d fall on the couch clutching my sides. I miss the young woman who would go shopping with me and say “MOM! that makes you look so fat”! I miss the young woman who glowed with such promise and passion. I thought that young woman would come to my gallery opening on 11.14. Instead an unhappy, thrown together waif showed up, looked around without interest and left without much of a smile.

I know it’s because my nephew and I were doing the show together and his girlfriend was there. I know it’s because my other nephew was there with his wife. I know it’s because everywhere she looks she sees couples but when she looks in the mirror she doesn’t see anyone anymore. She has disappeared and in her place is a lost and unhappy woman who doesn’t trust anyone. Not even the ones who will love her whether or not she returns that love.

So how do I reach her? The question haunts me because I know there is no answer. I can do nothing. I can’t repair her heart. I can’t kiss the booboo and make it better. I can only be there, when and if she ever decides to reach out and ask for my help. As for her lover, how do I feel about him? Do I hate him? Good question and an interesting one because he made me fall in love with him too. And not just with him but with his Mother and step father and his 88 year-old grandmother. I miss him, I miss them but most of all I miss my daughter.

Sweet Sixteen


PERFECT TIMING! Friday 11.13 was my first gallery show in 12 years and on that day I was nominated for my first
blog Award by Leslie of the Flowers of Life.

She called me “An insightful passionate Artist” and in IMHO that is the highest compliment that can be paid. I’d like to believe that my journey through breast cancer has made me insightful and there is no doubt that I am PASSIONATE about my art. For that fact, any ART! It’s what got me through my darkest days of chemotherapy and gave me hope that at the end of the journey there would be new life and new friends to enjoy!

The Marie-Antoinette, A Real Person, A Real Award comes with several caveats; you must:
1. Please put the Marie-Antoinette logo on your blog
2. Place a link to the person from whom you received the award
3. Nominate at least 7 or more blogs
4. Put the links of those blogs on your blog
5. Leave a message on their blogs to tell them.
Fortunately that's not hard because over the last ten years of posting on the web I've met some incredible PEOPLE. So my awards go to the nominees on my Marie Antoinette Blog list. See it on the top of the right column.

Friday, November 14, 2008


Tonight is the one night Gallery Bash at Surf Taco, Main Street in Belmar, NJ. The art is amazing and the company will be outstanding as a group of very talented artists come together to show their work. I'm one of those lucky artists and here's a tiny taste of what I'll be showing along with some larger canvasses and framed work.


Happy Happy


I'll try and post some of the larger pieces later today but I'm running behind myself and have a LOT of last minute art to get matted. Hugs, y'all

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Coincidence or Fate?

I've been battling with my authentic self for weeks, nay months! on what my artist voice should be singing. I have gone back and forth looking at the various online sites to see what was selling; could I do that and did I want to?

Yesterday through a series of coincidences, I now believe in a Universal plan that I had misplaced somewhere along the way to making my art be profitable. I've tried various styles, mediums, surfaces...anything that was selling that I thought I could do as well if not better than the person who was selling it. I got confused and lost and my voice became a squeak in a depth of the blackest night. I was well and truly lost. And being confused is not the way to a healthy mental or physical lifestyle. Especially when one has already been through cancer and needs to keep healthy and stress-free.

It came to a head when I accepted a spot in a one night all out gallery bash in my old home town. I agreed instantly because I was sure it would finally help me decide on what I was 'supposed' to be painting. After 7 weeks of going back and forth and looking at my work I could not find a single thing that was consistent between the pieces other than I had created them with the same paintbrushes and paints. They were a mishmosh of every artist I have ever admired! Holy Cow! Now I knew I was in trouble because gallery night was four nights away and OMG what was I going to do.

Walking about my house and its hidey holes of supplies and such I came across a box of pieces I'd done back in 1996. 1996 was a definitive year for me for a lot of reasons. Not the least of which was I found myself in a position that Hillary Clinton and Elizabeth Edwards have occupied. And as surely as Mrs. Edwards would have sworn on her husband's faithfulness I swore on mine. You know the old saying about the wife being the last to know. It isn't a saying, it is a truth.

Anyway, I found the work I had shown that year. The last year I had a gallery show, the last year I was my true and authentic self. Holding those pieces in my hands I rediscovered myself. How refreshing and how peaceful it is to finally look into that artistic mirror and see your true self looking back at you.

So I have put aside all of those pieces I have painted over the last weeks and months and pulled out of storage the true and authentic artist I knew was hiding somewhere behind the curtains of my doubt and uncertainty. The pieces may or may not sell come Friday night. But the crowds will be friendly, the wine will be great and the work will finally be...authentic!

Sunday, November 09, 2008


Found out this evening that I need to have some kind of structure to hang all of my pieces for Friday's Gallery Bash in Belmar, NJ. Fortunately DH has a solution for me so I'm not as distraught as I was about four hours ago!

I'm getting really excited about this LolliShops beta opening on Saturday. It's also the Sugar & Spice bazaar at church so I'll have the gallery show Fri., Bazaar table Sat and the cyber opening of my wild gypsy shop on Sat. as well. Full creative week ahead so I've got to hit the sheets so I'll have the energy to do mega creating! If you're any kind of crafty be sure to click on the LolliShops banner to the right and pre-register. And be sure to tell 'em I sent you 'cause we get credit for recruiting our crafty friends!

Night all...big king sized bed and heating blanket are calling my name. Til tomorrow y'all, keep just might save your life!

Saturday, November 08, 2008

I'm travelin' On The Good Ship LolliShop!!

There's excitement 'round the ole woodstove tonight! I've been accepted to join the beta launch of LolliShops. Here's what my email said:
You have been accepted! You are just what we're looking for.
Our Beta Launch is scheduled for November 15th
And our whole site launch is scheduled for November 28th!!
PERFECT, PERFECT PERFECT timing! My gallery show is the 14th and I'll have goods aplenty to upload to the site for the beta launch. Stay tuned for more happiness from the Jersey Girl!

The good ship LolliShop

I'm still in a race down to the wire for next Friday's gallery blast. I'm taking a moment to pre-apply to the lollishop's website. I hope that the owner will like my work but everyone has different tastes and I've long since given up trying to appeal to everyone. I'll just be me and that will have to do.

I've been quiet since Election Night working my hands until the OA reared its ugly head and made me slow down. Nonetheless I've gotten some VERY interesting pieces finished and I think that instead of going back to the SOS on eBay I'm going to see if the Lollis want to have me aboard. Wish me luck.

Huggabugs, Caar

Tuesday, November 04, 2008


I'm thrilled with the outcome in New Jersey. We're a Blue state and we remained true blue with this election. I'm proud to be an Obama supporter and hoping for a nation wide win for him.


The last time I stood in line to vote for president, it was 5:30 am on a cold, dark day and I was less than 24 hours out from my first chemo session.

Today, my entire family stood in line with me as we waited for the doors to open at 6 am. Of course, my daughter and I are known for our friendly manner and BIG mouths. So no surprise, that I got to be the number one voter in our district and she got to be the number two voter. DH and DS followed us and it was easy as pie to use the new touch screen booths to cast our votes for OBAMA/BIDEN!

I AM NOW OFFICIALLY AN OBAMA MAMA!!! I'll blog more later today but I want to remind you to use your right as an American Citizen and VOTE!!!


Track your candidate on the early exit poll list:

Saturday, November 01, 2008

OBAMA best-suited

This is a portion of an editorial that appeared in The Reporter, a free local Jersey Shore paper on 10.30.08 and I wanted to share it with all of my readers.

"...Obama has the intellect needed to comprehend the complexities of the times and the ability to articulate his positions clearly and eloquently. He can inspire, and we believe he will be able to bring out the best in the American people at a time when our best will be needed. He also offers the best hope for building coalitions and winning back the support of our friends abroad, which he recognizes is critical, not only to help win the war on terrorism but to restore order in the world financial markets.

McCain has burned way too many bridges to lead at home or in the international arena. His abrasiveness and that of running mate Sarah Palin during the debates, at their rallies and in their barrage of attack ads have been in sharp contrast to the respectful presidential manner of Obama.

McCain has alienated the Germans, the Spanish and the French, and set the stage for a new cold war with Russia by stating in a debate that when he looks into the eyes of Russian leader Vladimir Putin, he sees "K-G=B." Thinking it is one thing. Saying it to the world is another.

An ongoing Economist magazine poll of its readers around the world indicates McCain would carry only two nations -- Macedonia and Georgia. Obama is preferered by 85 percent or more of the magazine's readers in Canada, Australia and most European, Caribean and South American nations.

Obama and McCain both have portrayed themselves as agents of change. Obama's claim rings true. McCain's does not. McCain has opposed President Bush and the Republican Party on some issues...McCain's views are barely distinguishable from those of Bush."

This editorial was surprising because this particular conglomerate of newspapers usually goes straight Republican!