Thanks to everyone who commented on my last blog post. In the interim my daughter and I have talked. In fact spent more time than we have in months talking about her feelings.
She has been in counseling. As the psychologist told her, she already knows how to deal with this because of her insightful nature. And as my daughter said to me with great wisdom..."I do know how to get through this...it just takes time...Nick met every item on my 'list' except for the blue eyes...it's like someone died...but instead of losing one person it's like there was a major calamity and I lost an entire family".
So at the moment she's decided to concentrate on her career. I know she'll be ok but there are always going to be setbacks until someone or something keeps her so absorbed that she never slips back into the past but is soundly planted in the present with an eye toward the future.
Sounds to me like she's going to be okay...her point that it's like losing a family and going through grief is very valid and there is no time limit on grieving. But you've talked and that will have been wonderful for her (and for you) and you know where she is in her thinking and she knows you are there for support. Time. And as a mother, these are some of the hardest things we go through. We can't just get a band-aid or find the meds...we just have to love. Seems to me you're doing that and doing it well. ♥
ReplyDeleteOh, good. Good that you talked in depth. Good that she is taking care of herself. Good.
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